Guidelines for Discipline
Discipline in a positive light
One of the key factors in discipline is not so much what you say, but how you say it. Discipline is not to a child but for a child; not a punishment by an opportunity for learning. When discipline is handled in a poor manner, it can do tremendous damage to a child. The following are some practical guidelines to help you make disciplining a camper a more positive experience for you both.
Discipline in the spirit of understanding
It is a good idea to communicate to the camper that you understand his situation and his feelings. Once the camper realizes that the counselor has some understanding of what is going on, the interaction will go more smoothly.
Be tentative
Avoid statements that seem as if they're fixed in cement. There might be additional factors that haven't been seen or taken into consideration by the counselor. This leaves an opening for the camper to clarify any misconception on the counselor's part. It means that the counselor does not see himself as infallible or faultless. Being tentative could be viewed as perception-checking; making sure you are right about the behavior you are about to discipline.
Discipline shows involvement
When you are disciplining someone, you are showing concern and care towards the individual. In order to help him through the negative behavior, a long-term committment may be required. In short, does the camper sense that you are there to support him as he works through his behavioral change? Or does the disciplining become nothing more than a hit-and-run experience?
Be gradual
It isn't a good idea to discipline a camper for many offenses at the same time. Don't save up all his negative behaviors and then cash them in all at the same time. This could be damaging to the relationship, as well as to the self-esteem of the camper.
Take into consideration the emotional state of the camper
It is important to discipline the camper while he has full control of his emotions. It would not be a good idea to discipline the camper when he is very tired, or has just gone through an emotionally draining experience not related the the problen behavior.
Be specific
You need the give the camper specific ideas on how he can improve the area in which he is being disciplined. To talk in vague generalities could confuse the camper.
Use descriptive language
It is best to use descriptive language rather than language that is commanding, judgemental, accusing, or sarcastic in attempting to verbalize the negative behavior. These do nothing but put the camper on the defensive, making effective discipline much more difficult. Be calm and accepting.
Do not rely on non-verbal cues
Non-verbal behavior can communicate very strongly, but it is important to realize that these non-verbal messages need to be backed up by words if they are to be effective. It is nearly impossible for the camper to read the counselor's mind...and vice-versa.
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